Religious Codependency

Too many Christians suffer from religious codependency and, they, for the most part, are totally unaware of it. Codependent Christians feel that God will do whatever they think is required to help them live their lives their way.

Religious codependency perpetuates a spiritually unhealthy relationship with God. Here's why...

In ordinary relationships codependency is seen as an unhealthy “giving away” of our power to another; the concept of the other person or persons becoming our “drug of choice”.

We allow them to control us.

God is not in the business of controlling us.

When we say "God is in control" we often are really saying that everything is rolling alone as expected and we are coasting effortlessly through life. But let us hit a "pot hole" and suddenly we're calling out for God to "take control” while completely forgetting that it was our choice to choose the road in the first place.

Religious codependency is expecting God to fix and control all our problems and defects of character, missing completely the responsibility given to us through God’s gift of free-will. Surely we should no longer expect God to live every portion of our lives for us, while we ignore our relationship with Him. We are to choose "wisely" (Psalm 1:1-6, Deuteronomy 30:19, Acts 10:34).

We need to always keep in mind that the choices that we make define our moments and our life. It is our choice to meditate on things above or think on things below. It is our choice to either eat healthily and strengthen our body or eat foods that hurt and abuse our body. It is our choice to tithe on our income and give to God what rightfully belongs to Him or steal from God and be selfish with our finances. It is our choice whether we live in abundance or live in lack. It is our choice whether we go to heaven or go to hell when we die.

It is foolish to suggest that God alone gets a person sober, wealthy, confident, successful, happy, influential, or even a better husband or wife. We must pick up our cross and choose who we will serve.

The simple truth is we need to get involved, we need to cooperate; we need to listen to God's voice and then do what is necessary to experience the abundant life that He has promised us.

You see, freedom from condemnation belongs to us through God's grace but in that freedom we have a responsibility to live righteously. We honor God, we appreciate His free gift of grace, when we work together with the Holy Spirit to grow spiritually and live a life that is godly.

God's Word instructs us to revisit our understanding of God’s Will for each of us. Understanding grace helps us make the important shift from feeling forever sinful and pathetically dependent, to one who is blessed. Certainly we all make mistakes, but we are not a mistake. We were born sinful, we inherited the sin of Adam and Eve; but we are our own persons, and because of Jesus and our new birth we have become inherently powerful children of God.

That is quite a difficult concept to grasp. Everything within us resists it as if it were not true. The American Standard Version of the Bible has this Scripture written in this way: 2 Corinthians 5:21(ASV) Him (Jesus) who knew no sin He (God) made to be sin on our behalf; that we might become the righteousness of God in him.

The King James Version has it written like this: (KJV) For He hath made Him to be sin for us, who knew no sin; that we might be made the righteousness of God in Him (Jesus). The phrase “might be made” comes from the Greek word ginomai which means to cause to be. Check out what the Strong’s Hebrew and Greek Dictionary says about this word: G1096 γίνομαι ginomai (ghin'-om-ahee) A prolonged and middle form of a primary verb; to cause to be (“gen” -erate), that is, (reflexively) to become (come into being), used with great latitude (literally, figuratively, intensively, etc.)

Please take notice: This message is not for the immature Christian who thinks that they have to accomplish a list of good works in order to become something in the Lord Jesus Christ or that they must maintain the status of “Christian” by doing good things. It is solely for those who realize that Jesus has completed the work and that we, through faith in Him, have become something in God; and not just something, but the righteousness that God’s Law requires. We are no longer considered law-breakers, but now, through Christ Jesus, we have come into right standing with God.

How great is our God! He has sent His Son to redeem us completely and eternally from the penalty of sin. However, Jesus was not sent to make our lives here on planet earth, perfect. That’s our task, through relationship and faith in God and His Word we can claim what we, as His children, already possess.